We use language to make sense of the world. Our thinking and feeling is strongly influenced by the linguistic sense we make. The greater our accuracy in language the more effective our thinking and feeling will be. The selection of individual words, the relationship between words and thinking and feeling can result in inaccurate understanding, unnecessary problems and conflicts.
About John Mc Whirter
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Entries by John Mc Whirter
Effective communication saves time and effort, increases our productivity, increases our understanding, and improves our effectiveness in all areas of our life. Effective communication is necessary in love and relationships, in poetry, prose, music, dance and art, a fundamental in all our highest and greatest pleasures in life….
A defining feature of being human is our need to relate. We are social animals and all social animals need to learn to relate effectively if they are to be successful in their social group. This social relating is a “Subjective Relating” and includes many elements such as bonding, attending, responding, loving, communicating, caring, nurturing, and supporting. Through relating we meet many,,,,,
The DBM® Developing from Setbacks Framework
This integrated framework is designed to work developmentally with all stages of working in relation to setbacks from preventative through to managing different types of Coping, different types of righting things (Recovery) and Developing form Setbacks.
All of us have a viewpoint on the world around us. We create this throughout our lives. The shared reality of our culture can obscure the uniqueness of each individual.
We can say that each of us creates our own model of the world. By a model we mean “an organised dynamic representation of our world”.
A developmental intervention aims to promote changes that will take place through time, in terms of moving somebody into the future and exploring for example how he/she is dealing with normative and non-normative life events, turning points, transitions, life pathways and general stages. A valuable variable which is becoming a usual target for intervention from a developmental point of view is the promotion of Identity.
We are all modellers in a naturalistic way. We all have our models and our own way of building them. What if we understood more about these models and how we build them and developed new, more effective ways to change them? This would involve product, process and principle. This has been the aim of DBM.
In this article I will outline some of my developments in modelling language. This is
an area in which I have worked longest and probably found the most rewarding.
Language has been the main tool in creating DBM, which is similar to the central role
which it has had in NLP.
Many, if not most clients, seek therapy because of some kind of bad feeling. NLP offers a number of techniques for dealing with bad feelings. In this third part of my series on re-modelling NLP, I will concentrate on the area of feeling generally and specifically the area of conflicts and how we can use feelings to resolve difficult issues.